Trying Too Hard Sometimes Doesn’t Pay Off

Sometimes, trying hard in a certain company does not provide us with what we are looking for. This does not mean that we do not have the necessary skills, nor that we are not qualified to carry out what we have in mind. You are simply on the wrong path.

The good decision would be in the change, but this is something that we do not carry out until we have no other option. We have an atrocious fear of modifying what has been done so far.

However, sometimes it is the only way out.

Strive for a dream

Some of the goals you have set for yourself throughout your life were unfeasible. Therefore, you never carried them out or, if you have, you failed in your attempt.

Although this is clear when we talk about a job, in which we must be realistic, most of the time it is not the same at the level of relationships.

Here the illusions and desires take on more importance than what actually happens.

This is why there are so many unhappy relationships that struggle to stay in vain.

You put all your effort into keeping a ruined building that is about to collapse standing. However, the longing to have a perfect life, with a wonderful partner and the house that you have always imagined is not being realistic.

You find yourself in a dead end that will lead you to nothing but self-destruction. And it is that, insisting on a question that has no possible end, is the same as hitting your head against a wall until you faint.

Insisting will not have the desired effect

Striving without obtaining the desired effects implies that we are obsessing over something that is not going to happen as we expect. However, one of our strategies is to insist.

However, persevering in what does not suit us will not bear any fruit and will cause us to block and not move forward.

Imagine that you have the objective of carrying out a great project but, in the ascent towards your goal, you encounter difficulties, which you go around until there is one that you cannot avoid.

You put all your effort into doing it, you go around that stone that is getting in your way. You look above, below, to the sides … Although you waste your time, you believe that the solution lies in that stone.

You do not realize that you may have to retrace your steps because you may have gone the wrong way. Insisting on this place will not advance you any further, although you will try to believe that.

It is okay to assume that we are wrong. Stopping trying will not make us failures. Go back, aware of what you have achieved so far, and look for another way.

This problem has helped you more than you think. You would not come to fruition on that path.

What worked for you yesterday won’t work for you today

Sometimes we cling to those actions and behaviors that have paid off in the past. However, yesterday is not today, so we have to change.

It makes no sense to anchor yourself to what once made sense, but doesn’t make sense today. Life moves on. Not always everything follows the same course of things. So look around you and find out what signals the world is sending you.

Sometimes we are so focused on what we want that we blind ourselves and fail to see what problems, difficulties, obstacles and stones are telling us.

Now is the time for you to ask yourself “what are you afraid of?” Maybe you don’t want to face that place that is far from your comfort zone. Perhaps, a while ago you tried to risk, try something else and ended up disenchanted. We can’t always get it right the first time.

Even if you fail over and over again, if you really seek or want to achieve something, keep trying and failing. Only in this way can we learn, both from our relationships and from our work goals. Striving means persevering and changing direction from time to time.